There are undoubtedly gender differences between men and women and I’d be the last person to argue with it. Having said that, I do believe that a great deal of those differences are due to centuries of stereotypical socialisation and yes, I am aware that there are plenty of studies that may claim differences in brain function between men and women. The question is, has it always been like that or because of differences in socialisation, men and women were
Read more →Passive-aggressive is a term that most of us are familiar with and at times may have found ourselves using it when describing people. Not many however, seem to be quite clear about what it really says. The actual term in itself may appear as a paradox, in that our main understanding of aggression is something dynamic, active and of course the term passive represents the exact opposite of that, so how can two seemingly opposite words create one that makes
Read more →It is really interesting, how many people have very strong opinions about what’s right and what’s wrong. They appear to have good solid values and believe in integrity and decency. They even go as far as talking about their personal experiences with others, who don’t have good set of values i.e. are dishonest, deceitful, selfish etc. and you think: ‘ isn’t it nice to meet someone like-minded.’ You spend more time with this person, start connecting with them, sharing personal
Read more →We all have of course a sexual orientation. We can be hetero-sexual, gay or bi-sexual. But does it really matter? It’s interesting that hetero-sexual people never seem worried about their sexual orientation. Whereas people belonging to the latter two of the above categories, i.e. gay and bi-sexual, at least at some point in their life have been and/or still very much worry about their sexual identity. Naturally, we all know some of the reasons for that; the main one being
Read more →I don’t know what is going on at the moment, but for the last month, almost everyone I speak to, is going through some sort of crisis or some kind of bleakness. I know that some people suffer from depression and require psychological/psychiatric treatment. However, majority of people, whilst they may not be clinically depressed, they still go through phases (be it a day or two or longer), when they just feel drained, demotivated and dark, even though objectively, everything
Read more →Trust is an interesting concept, in that a great deal of people think they have problems with trusting others. But is that true? In order to answer that question, one would need to understand what these people’s definition of trust is. Well, I can’t speak for others, but I suppose what most people associate with trust is the ability to know that one can have confidence in another person’s honour and integrity. Honour and integrity however, are quite significant and
Read more →I made the acquaintance of someone recently. We were talking in general about life and being happy, which reminded me of a conversation I had with someone a few years ago… I think in many ways, the notion of happiness is the single universal desire we all have. Everyone wants to be happy. Admittedley, it entails a different definition for different people. For some people happiness equates to love, for others to money, some find it in a successful
Read more →It is extraordinary just how many people worry about what others think of them. The question is why does it matter so much what others think? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Have you ever sat down and thought about where it all comes from and when it started? The truth is that an element of it is “normal” of course. It matters to a degree how people perceive us and what they think of us. That is because
Read more →The other day, I was sitting in a cafe doing some work and watching the world go by. there was a family sitting at a nearby table; two children, a girl around 10 years-old and a little boy of about 4 with their parents. It was nothing unusual about them except that my attention was drawn to them by their mother who kept shouting at the girl on top of her voice and what seems to me, for no apparent
Read more →We wake up one morning and it is a day like any other. We think about our plans for the day; what we are doing or where we are going… but then we receive a phone call, telling us that a dear friend has passed away… our first reaction is that of shock, it is almost like the simple words are not making any sense or someone is talking to us from a distance. It seems so unreal! We ask
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